I have a deep desire to support others as they go through the transition into parenthood. A desire to provide a stable beginning to others is how this journey began. I started out as a mixed up teenage mother who always wished I had someone there to help me through and provide a sense of stability. I have had challenging births with my children, for the most part without someone there to hold my hand and be at my side assuring me that it would all be OK. Hence, this voyage to being a birthing partner for my friends and family. I wanted to be someone that would be able to support and help other women bring their children into this world, regardless of age or experience, whether it was educating them to their options or holding their hand through the pain.
Some of my strengths include my "mama-bear" personality, my ability to be non-judgmental and supportive while also living the philosophy that people will live as they are taught. I ensure that my client feels safe and cocooned in whatever environment they choose to give birth in, be it their home or the hospital or anywhere else. The flip side to that is that a doula is a support person, part of the job is also being tough with a client or livening them up when they're feeling too down to continue. It's my job to motivate my clients, make them feel like they can succeed, both emotionally and physically. It is essential to me to be supportive. A lot of my clients thus far, and will continue to be as it's one of my driving goals as a practicing doula, have been low income and/or teenage mothers to be.
Compassion and "good vibes" are essential for people who are in hard situations. The earlier they can get emotional support and education the better. I feel this is the first stepping stone to making good parents out of sometimes bad or scary situations.
Every birth I attend teaches me something new or gives me a new perspective and experience to carry forward to my future births. Sometimes I learn new ways to position a mama to assist in her comfort or a new way to just hold space.